I have many men in my life that are wonderful Fathers, but one I want to highlight in this post is the father of my children. He is a saint and I am so incredibly grateful for him. I want to share my favorite things about my husband, the father of my children and celebrate the man and husband he is to me.
Stands up for me:
Someone says anything negative or in an attack towards me, he always, ALWAYS has my back. It is the most attractive thing when your man stands up for you. To him, I will always be his number 1 and what he plans and chooses to do is for me and our little family. We are his priority. It is a wonderful feeling of security. I picked a good one.
Puts me in my place:
Sometimes, I can be very…. difficult. As in I have my mind set on something and my stubbornness takes over. I also often get in a state of panic and my anxiety is out of control. He is very good with bringing me down a notch without insulting me (sometimes). That’s not saying it’s like that every time, but he gets it and has grown with this kind of support we need in each other.
Sensitive:
My husband can be very sensitive. He feels and can feel very hard. I will never forget when we had to put my dog down together. A dog that was mine before even meeting my husband and how we both sat in the room after my dog’s heart stopped beating, sobbing and feeling the pain of losing him together. I don’t even know how long we cried together, but he held me for as long as I needed it.
Emotional Support:
My husband is very good with recognizing when my emotions are out of control. He often steps up more for me when I feel completely helpless. I don’t have to ask him, he just knows.
Very Ambitious:
He has dreams, he works really hard, he loves to run and it’s amazing. When he wants something he will stop at nothing to get it even if he’s very critical of himself in the process. I am so proud of what he has accomplished and the hard working male role model he is in our girls life.
Health is Important:
He is, wants to be and strives to be, healthy. I wish I had his self control or his drive to succeed in running or anything really. It’s very admirable.
Stands up for himself:
He will unapologetically stand up for himself. He does not take disrespect from anyone. He is 90% respectful about it (he has his moments) and calls people out when they are showing him or his family any kind of disrespect. It’s a quality in him that I admire because I often struggle standing up for myself. Confrontation does not scare him.
Quality Time:
Date Nights once a month are special/phone free. We get a babysitter and enjoy a wonderful evening together. We also try and do things with just us and our girls. Our little family. We plan a week of vacation every summer and enjoy our time together just the 4 of us and it is the most wonderful week of the year. I love our time together just us as a couple, and I love our time together with our 2 girls. I’m so very blessed. It is when I am at my happiest.
Understands my Love Language:
He knows my love language is Quality Time and will make sure that love language is met.
Chooses Me:
He always chooses me over anyone else. I never have to question his love for me because he makes it known.
I Feel Wanted:
He always makes me know how much he wants me and appreciates me. It is so wonderful to have a man after 10 years still want me as much as he does or maybe even sometimes more since day one.
The BEST Wingman:
We recently moved and I had zero friends in our new town. All my very close friends are 2 plus hours away. We went to a block party recently, the day after he had surgery and all because he wanted me to meet new people. He knew that if he didn’t go, I wouldn’t have gone. So he was adamant in going and talking to everyone and all the couples finding new friends for me. I left that block party with 4 new numbers and hopefully 4 new friends. That would not have happened if it weren’t for him. I am so socially awkward and uncomfortable in social outings that require me to talk to new people and keep small talk going. He’s so naturally good at it.
Daddy of the Year:
There’s a lot he’s working on to be the best dad he could be. As most parents know, parenthood is hard. So many challenges. He really tries. He has to swallow his pride often to recognize who he needs to be for his two girls. He also recognizes when he messes up and will apologize to me or the girls for it. He owns his mistakes and tries to grow from it.
For those of you who know my husband, you know he is theatrical and unapologetically loud. He has zero filter and says what’s on his mind. Sometimes appropriate, sometimes not. He is not ashamed to be himself. Having a personality like that can be intimidating to some but charming to others. It’s a good balance with me because I am often reserved and to myself. He brings me out of my shell. But also recognizes if I’m uncomfortable. We also give each other space. We do not spend every evening together. I thrive in quiet and after a long day with loud toddlers I enjoy a peaceful evening. My husband also likes to play games. It is a nice balance we have. It took some time to get to that point recognizing it’s probably best not to spend every waking hour together and that it’s okay to give each other space and alone time. We also give each other solo weekends too. About once a year I do one girls trip and he does one guys trip and in between random golf days or nights I travel to visit a friend or he goes out too. Again, we have a great balance and recognize how important breaks are especially now as parents. I never feel guilty leaving because he makes sure I don’t feel guilty leaving. He encourages it as I do him.
We aren’t perfect. And I know that. Just like any couple, there’s challenges. But what I love most about us is that at the end of the day, we appreciate each other for who we are as a couple and recognize the importance of being who we are as individuals. And we always choose each other. That’s what keeps us strong and keeps us loving each other for over 10 years together, almost 8 years married and over 4 years as parents.
Happy Father's Day my love ❤️
Thank you so much for reading,
Susana
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